Part of our Adult Toys Complete Guide
Couples toys are designed for shared experiences, adding new dimensions to intimacy. This guide covers popular options and how to introduce them into your relationship.
Types of Couples Toys
Wearable Vibrators
Designed to be worn during intimacy, providing stimulation for both partners:
- C-shaped designs that stay in place
- Remote or app-controlled for partner interaction
- Hands-free operation
Vibrating Rings
Worn at the base, providing vibration for both partners:
- Simple to use for beginners
- Affordable entry point
- Various vibration patterns
Remote Control Toys
One partner controls the other's pleasure:
- Adds element of surprise
- Works for long-distance relationships
- Builds anticipation
Massage Products
For mutual relaxation and connection:
- Massage candles and oils
- Vibrating massagers
- Focus on intimacy beyond sex
How to Introduce Couples Toys
Start the Conversation
Communication is key:
- Choose a relaxed, non-sexual moment
- Frame it positively: "I've been curious about..."
- Ask about their thoughts and boundaries
- Make it about exploration, not inadequacy
Start Simple
For first-time couples:
- Vibrating ring: Non-intimidating and beneficial for both
- Massage products: Focus on connection, not just pleasure
- Small vibrator to use together during intimacy
Set Expectations
- First attempts may feel awkward—that's normal
- Communicate during use about what feels good
- It's okay if something doesn't work for you
- Focus on fun and connection over performance
Best Products for Beginners
For Her
Small vibrators or wearables that can be used during intimacy without major adjustment to routine.
For Him
Vibrating rings that enhance pleasure for both partners.
For Both
Massage candles or oils that prioritize connection and sensuality.
Long-Distance Options
App-controlled toys enable intimate connection across distance:
- Partner can control patterns and intensity remotely
- Video chat integration for shared experiences
- Scheduled "sessions" maintain connection
Communication Tips
- Before: Discuss boundaries, safewords, expectations
- During: Check in, give feedback, stay connected
- After: Discuss what worked, what to try differently
Common Concerns
"Does this mean I'm not enough?"
Not at all. Toys are tools for enhancement, not replacement. Partners who use toys report higher satisfaction.
"What if it's awkward?"
It probably will be at first—that's okay! Laughter and awkwardness are part of exploration. Don't take it too seriously.
"What if one partner isn't interested?"
Respect boundaries. Perhaps start with something less intimidating like massage products, or revisit the conversation later.